Relationships and letting go
We have all experienced it: We hang on to relationships. We cannot let go. I go this email explaining the issue:
Hi Johan,
I found you on youtube and really liked your message. I have worked with the law of attraction for a while now and seem to be really successful with it (especially in attracting money). I needed a bit of guidance though. Do you have an AIM account? If you do, I would love to ask you for a little guidance. But if not, my question would be how can I deal with my best friend and boyfriend leaving out of my life suddenly?
I see that I am happy attracting money but in my happiness and love life I am sad and frustrated.
Thank you for your time!
This is my answer to a new friend:
Hi Bridget
Great to hear from you.
As you continue on your way you’ll find it difficult to let go. We all experience it. But I quickly realized that the world conspires to make you and me better people. When you let go you’ll be in control but when you hang-on you allow the other person to manipulate you ….directly or in your mind.
When you give them freedom they will come back if they should but letting go opens your world to what you must get. If they come back thank them. If they stay away forgive them and love them for conspiring to make you a better person.
Love yourself aways. You are all that matter. If you are happy the world will be happy. Forget about the people and love YOU. They will come to you when you love yourself. And only then can you inspire them.
Love
Johan
P.S. The following is the video I made using my daughter lovely voice.
When you say good bye
Because we are all part of the cosmic soup we should not feel sad when we say good bye. Why then do I feel sad today? If you consider that the world is conspiring to make me and you a better person then saying good bye should be easy. Because we stay connected and there’s aways a lesson.
But….
During the last week we were in Mauritius for my birthday. My lovely wife Elmarie, my beautiful daughter Nandi and one of her friends Alister, had the best times, ever, at the Club Med Hotel.
The hotel staff (Gentle Officers or GOs) treated us (Gentle Members) like kings and queens. And we became intensely involved with them. They are a great bunch of people. They work from sun up and party till sun up. They do what they do well because they truly love the Gentle Members. But I think it’s a lot easier to love people who want to be loved…. and we are suckers for love. The more we gave the more we got back. And then we had to say good bye to our new friends.
Say good buy to people you know for only seven days should not be difficult. But we left knowing that we may never meet again (in this world at least) but why do we feel the emptiness?
Why the feeling of loss?
Then I had a double whammy. My daughter will attend university in Cape Town (two hours away -by plane) and she and my wife left, today, to set her up in the coming week. Now if you think it was difficult to say good bye to my friends at Club Met then I must confess.
I never expected to feel as sad as I do. Even though I will see her often and speak to her often I know that she is taking one of the most visible steps in becoming independent. Why then do I feel sad today?
Because I have enough reason. I will feel stronger very soon but at the moment I am touching LOVE! What an excuse………
