Love: The Best Way To Become Happy….
The best way to become happy with someone or something is to reduce judgment and/or increase appreciation. Serge Kahili King
The idea is that we reduce criticism and increase appreciation of self and others to resolve conflict. We tend to think that it’s difficult to be happy, we think we have to pay money to be happy. In the meantime it’s all just a choice. When we choose not to judge, and when we choose not to criticize we can be happy.
In my video on the Law Of Love I discuss the Ho’oponopono method, where you ask for forgiveness, you forgive, you say that you love (self or others) and thank you (self or others). What I really like about the method is that you can do it all in the mind, you don’t have to say it aloud to the person you criticize.
I used to judge everyone I met. But with practice and using the Ho’oponopono method I am getting better at it. And when I fail (and I do) I just ask the person for forgiveness, I say that I forgive the person, and I say that I love person and you thank (all in my mind).
Just think about it: You had a monster fight with your best friend and you use the ideas above to resolve the conflict, in the privacy of your own mind. I have used it many times and should not be surprised by the results but I am.
If you are unhappy with what I have said or done, please for give me, I have already forgiven you and I love you. Thank you 
Johan
Paul McCullough said,
February 14, 2007 at 5:38 pm
Yes. Please forgive me. I forgive you. I love you. And I thank you. How nice. And how nice that it requires absolutely nothing from the other person. Which, of course, puts the control firmly back in our hands (as opposed to being a victim or thinking that there’s nothing we can do to remedy a situation). I also liked what somebody said on the Oprah show the other day. Forgiveness means “thank you For/Giving me this experience.”
Johan Horak said,
February 15, 2007 at 8:45 am
Hi Paul
Thank you for reminding me to be 100% responsible. Ho’oponopono teaches, “There is a way, though, out of problems and disease for any individual willing to be 100 % responsible for creating his life the way it is moment to moment. In the ancient Hawaiian healing process of Ho’oponopono, the individual petitions Love to rectify errors within him. “I am sorry. Please forgive me for whatever is going on inside of me that manifests as the problem.” see http://hooponopono.org/Articles/the_marriage.html
I want to change the into here and say, “There is a way to be happy for any individual willing to be 100 % responsible for creating his life the way it is moment to moment………..”